Great analogy Val, (although I hope that doesn't sound like I'm comparing myself to Jesus. I'm not). You are right, I don't "have" to bare my soul. Geez, people can track that stuff down if they want. But
the Thing is, several specific questions have been asked of me about when "x" occurred and if "y" worked or hurt, background things, etc. And my views are more detached and objective now, I think.
I know people want to hear happy endings even if it was once very dark. I get that. I needed it too.With the benefit of time we do forget how sad and angry we once were. Hard to believe I could forget it.
BTW, when I say "happy endings" that's not to say all is smooth sailing all the time.
In a way, if by piecing you mean rebuilding, then I think piecing is permanent - except that I Know we are both committed to the marriage. The uncertainty is gone, without the taking for granted that can come with that certainty. I'm anti-complacency for sure.
I think strong marriages are always a work in progress, and marriages are an ebb and flow, evolving type of process.
It's never a "solved puzzle". But I can't keep hijacking other's threads (like I'm doing here! sheesh, I AM! OMG!...)
Val, your post helped there, so thanks. I'll still see the old mc, whom I have not seen in 5 years. Wow...the first 20 min will be catch up...I need an extra long appointment!
Coincidentally, My h and I are facing a family issue/crisis (NOT the m, thankfully) at this time.
I know that DB methods of detachment and surrendering, and reacting to what IS and not what we fear, will assist. Maybe the "review" (shared or not) will grant me some perspective.
Cross your fingers and send some prayers. thanks again
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
