Wife no longer In love with me - part 5

[cam]

Haven't posted in a while....things have been getting better in life....I feel like I am slowly getting back to my old self.

Update:
I've been seeing a lot of this girl from our advertising agency....she is great and we get on extremely well. I am starting to worry its too good and too soon....plus she doesn't know my background. The first night we hooked up (we only kissed!) we were at a drinks after work and we ended up having a huge night (lots of drinks)...I told her about my ex and how long we were together. Later in the night she was asking more questions, and we were very drunk and I said I was married. I don't think she heard or comprehended it as there wasn't much reaction. And since then she has referred to my W as my ex-girlfriend. I don't know what to do and how to tell her. I know I need to, but I am worried it will just scare her off - it doesn't make me look like the most attractive catch then. I need to do it soon before this goes any further, but it is so hard to do as everything so far has been fun and great with her. I just feel she will run away as I have so much sh!t to deal with.

Now for my W. I came to the realisation a few weeks ago that I don't want to keep trying to reconcile this with her, that I don't want to be with someone who doesn't love me and would walk away so easily. So I asked my lawyer to proceed with settlement negotiations. This has started and its now getting very very ugly....she is asking for a significant amount of money that I earned and had in our joint account which I have moved to another account. Her lawyer is stating that they will file for court action.....I am still shocked that it has come to this.
I think she may be realising that she is 32 years old, and would be lucky to have $10,000 to her name...and is now trying to get everything she can out of me.

Its strange, I still look back at all the great times and how much in love we were and how amazing our wedding was and can't understand or believe we are in this position. I still miss her as my best friend and W, and its still hard when my friends recently have babies, but I try not to let myself get too sad.

The IC has been good for me, I'm still doing it and understanding why I was the way I was with W and that its not all my fault. I still have regrets and know I always will and I don't think this wound will ever heal. I know I have let my W, myself and my family down, but I can only do my best now going forward and be a better person.
It's funny, since I've been hanging out with this new girl I have consciously been trying to be the nicest guy and do all the things my W said I should have done....I feel a lot happier and this girl seems to love it and thinks I'm wonderful (she even wants to take me back to her home state over new years to meet her family - yep, way too soon!) Hence why I'm so scared to tell her my history and scare her off.

If anyone has gone through this tricky situation it would be good to hear how it was approached.