So W stopped by to see S today. Was a disappointment. She only stopped in for like 10 minutes (alarm must have buzzed). I felt bad because I told S that W was going to spend time with him and take him out. She said she felt tired.
Something I've learned 1978 is to no longer make commitments or promises about what my W may or may not do; even if it's something simple or easy. Our S's are about the same age... my S will ask if mommy is going to be home when we get home or if mommy is going to play the Wii with him tonight. I used to try and guess or would text my W and ask. Now... I'm just honest. I tell him I don't know. And if he's not asking I don't make a commitment since I can't control the outcome.
What's hardest is when W does make a commitment and then bails on it because she's tired, wants to go out with her friends, or doesn't come home. In those cases I just make a point of being there and finding an alternative activity for us to do. I can tell you this... my S definitely notices.
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD
