I heard next to nothing from my H, and I have come to realize this is his path.
Yeah, it is. It does take time to accept it and you sound like you're in a good place with it today.
Remember,(even in the moments when the girls are making you crazy)that the tough stuff and how we handle it are probably better markers for our relationships than the easy/good stuff. You and you girls with have the memories of both for a lifetime.