Wife left

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So W stopped by to see S today. Was a disappointment. She only stopped in for like 10 minutes (alarm must have buzzed). I felt bad because I told S that W was going to spend time with him and take him out. She said she felt tired. She really really looked good, but my opinion may be impartial. I got caught checking her out (is that wrong?) We talked about Christmas gifts for S. S told her he drew her a picture (Christmas surprise, I helped him draw a nice charismas picture for W). She said she got car inspected and it cost her $270 for 2 new tires, she said brakes and rotors just passed. She said she didn't go to car dealership because the car she wanted wasn't there anymore, so she will keep looking. She left saying she would be by in the morning. About 5 minutes later she called to ask if I could call her when her bank card comes in the mail. She asked if S was upset when she left, I told her "No, he is taking bath right now. I didn't want to give him a bath earlier because I thought you were going to take him to play land." She said she felt bad, but was feeling sick. Then she said how she is going to keep S over night tomorrow since she doesn't get much time with him. I was a bit upset, and she could tell, and she reiterated she feels like she doesn't get anytime with him. I didn't say anything, I told her I'd call her when bank card comes in and told her to get some rest and I hope she is feeling better. She said thank you and good bye. I think I'm more upset then S is, because S doesn't realize what is going on. I really hate all this, I wish there was a simple fix. She seems to be friendly towards me, but I think that hurts more than when she is cold, because it gives false hope. How much time and space does someone need? I really hate this "tug of war" with our S. I hate not having him here, but I know she must feel the same. I know she loves him, but isn't that more the reason to try and make this M work?