Wow! Sounds to me like you've given her all the chances in the whole world! Are you saying now that you're done?
Advice.... don't make threats you're not willing to follow through with. If you've asked her to move out and she's agreed - make her do it!!!! She'll keep stepping on you if you don't follow through.
If she wants this independence, she'll have to take the good with the bad.
If she can't respect your boundary of NC... then she's not the one for you. It should matter to your PARTNER when something isn't okay with you, especially when that's an A.
Chin up! There is light at the end of the tunnel.
When you are happy as an individual, you are in a better position to determine whether a partner enhances your happy life or weighs it down.
