Great start to your new thread, gunny. I see some of my issues in your sitch and also think unrecognized depression is a huge factor for many.

No matter what happens it seems YOU will be in a good place.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss