My W backed out of the Xmas party we were going to at the last minute because of illness. In the past I would have not gone because of my fear of her mistrust issues and the resulting unpleasantness. I went anyway, told myself that I deserve to live with trust because I am trustworthy. I went, had a great time, and know that this GAL choice did make a difference. I can see that she is realizing that she has wandered pretty far from the M and is in fear that she may have lost it all. I don't want her to feel bad like this but this was for both our good. I am GAL that I deserve, and working on bettering me, and she has to work through her crisis and earn a R too.
Did I answer this in the manner you asked it? Thank you so much!
Okay, I fixed it for you....
Good for you Rick, it feels good to get out, and away from the madness ...doesn't it ????
I crossed the above out, because I want you to try and keep this about you for now.
It helps in the detaching department, and it allows you to focus on your actions, instead of how this is affecting her.
GAL should always be about you , and not used as a trick to "lure" the WAS back.
It is the time to get away for a bit and clear YOUR head. This will consume a person if one lets it happen.
