Hello Advina, Thank you for posting. In my sitch, it was like I was outside my r watching things slowly move out of my grasp. If my w had been constitutionaly capable of sitting me down and in a nonconfrontational manner letting me know that she was not happy with the way things were going and that if I didnt make some changes our marriage was in danger, I would have acted. Men, in general, need concrete communication, with definate boundries and consequences. These can all be delivered in a very loving way.
When she did tell me in Jan of this year that she wanted to go to MC, I immediately ageed. She gave me a concrete subject to deal with, and I acted on it. We went for seven times, and she told me we were doing better, we were allright.
Well, no matter how my sithc has turned out, concrete comm was very helpful.
Hope this helps!
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
