I agree 1978... I know even the other day when I asked my W about sex even I wasn't feeling a connection. The two times we have I didn't really feel one either. Don't get me wrong, the physical part was great, but there wasn't a connection. In some ways it was almost more emotionally painful since there wasn't one.
If my W asked me today for us to ML... I honestly don't know what I'd say, but I think I would say no. Especially now, especially how I feel now. Even though I'm a wreck currently I don't think adding that element would make things better.
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD