@Gunny I spent some time aboard her sister the Ponce. There are a few Sea Stories associated with those deployments.
Journaling I spoke with my son over the weekend. He was trying to catch up with me since returning from deployment. I was not 100% successful staying away from this sitch, but we managed to move past it.
He and his wife are entering the last month of the pregnancy, and he has been trying to make up for time lost, shopping, finalizing the baby’s room, attending parenting and Lamaze classes, touring the labor and delivery departments of the hospital they expect to use. He seems excited and happy with most of it, planning for the little girls arrival and being a Dad. I forgot what that was like and it was pleasant to be reminded about it. I even managed to pass along some advice.
We spoke a little about pressures from his unit and the responsibilities he has there. He has always been a hands on lead from the front NCO. It has served him well. We spoke about how he needs to adapt and learn to delegate lest he become overwhelmed between family and career.
He and his wife are not immune to some of the BS, and that is what has bothered me the most. It seems STBX committed to managing a baby shower. They registered at an internet site and sent out announcements. Only a few people responded and it seems STBX has washed her hands of the whole commitment, placing blame upon me, and family. None of this sits well with my son, and he is torn between loyalties.
I tried to tell him lack of commitment is a hall mark of where STBX is now and his loyalties lie with the women he chose to spend his life with, the woman who is carrying their child, with the family they are making. His focus needs to remain upon his mission. The rest of us are REMFs and we’ll sort out our own BS eventually.
After we said our goodbyes I logged onto their registry and purchased the items he seemed most concerned with. In the upcoming weeks I’ll encourage family to connect and communicate with them as they will be on the other side of the country during Christmas. It could be worse as he could still be walking a post as others are.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
