And mish..thank you, your post is just what i needed to hear..please tell me what you did in the mean time to make it easier. And things you wish you wouldnt have done...i feel like im drowning...
Thanks abby...i so appreciate your support..you girls have gotten me this far, im affraid my friends are at a loss why i still want to save my marriage to a person who is capable of doing what he is doing...


Me:48 H:42
M: 18 yrs.
S: 9/1/09 due to alcoholic H
D bomb: 9/9/11
OW confirmed 10/30/11
D papers filed 11/01/11
S15 S21(Special needs) S28

Look to yourself, It is there that all your answers are found...