SL: I do believe that when our spouses undergo a midl life crisis it does make us have a kind of crisis too because we look into ourselves a lot. In the process we see hwta we have done to contribute to the destruction of the M and we try to change, but really, it is hard! In my case, I feel like it led me to a sort of identity crisis, because in my efforts to change I started questioning myself if it is still the real me! But I know the "real" me had a lot of wrong ways, especially in terms of keeping a relationship alive, brought about by many factors (FOO, my personality type)....
Sigh.... its complicated, but we have to do what needs to be done....
And dwe do learn something all the time... its just that the application of it is hard... it takes time to apply all that we have learned.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
