I am getting the feeling that he is in a hugh "processing stage". I think he was very bothered by our last interaction at my daughter's school play. He was not able to push my buttons and I was as kind and cool-headed as it gets. The holidays have of course brought up all kinds of memories for me. I can't imagine what he is going through. Your advice of staying out of his way is good.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11