It's possible that the grandkids remind him of the family he left behind or maybe that he's aging. He's obviously trying to run from that given the ow is so much younger. Snodderly has said that MLCers can try to go back to a time before kids or grandkids.
In the earlier days of H and ow's R, he tried to shove her down the kids' throats. He could not understand through his own selfishness why they refused to meet her. He figured everyone should be as 'happy' as he was. He told the kids that he knew they would like her if they would just meet her. ow was all eager to meet them too. That's when I knew she was as wacko as he is. What person in their right mind would think that a person who left a M in the manner in which he did that his children, at their ages, would just accept them with open arms?
As you know, our youngest D did finally meet ow. It did not go well and I don't think the vacation was very pleasant for ow. Oh well, H has stopped pushing trying to 'blend' his 'families'. It's obvious that ow's children and grands take precedence over his own.
H took D13 out for a movie and lunch on Sat. Afterwards they did a little shopping. D needed a white blouse for her Christmas concert this coming week. H asked kiddingly why he had to buy it for her. D said kiddingly back to him, "You don't come to my concerts, so you get to buy my blouse." Pretty sad statement if you ask me.
I guess my point is that H did finally stop pushing for the kids to accept ow. Now, the kids just don't ask for H's presence at their events anymore. They know he wouldn't come anyway.
(((Hugs))) my friend, hang in there. You'll never understand it, but you do come to accept it.
