Has anyone ever recovered from a sitch this bad?

[gonnawinherback]

Thx, BkM. I need to hear that. But there is such a loss of trust right now. I was prepared to forgive the PA, but uprooting the kids is a whole new level. I'm sure I'm like a lot of us here who want to excuse the WAS's behavior as a visceral, almost involuntary response to extreme emotional distress - either pain or fear, or both. Because somehow that makes it more forgivable. The alternative is that they are incredibly selfish, and that usually doesn't mesh with our idea of the person we fell in love with.

My problem now is, regardless of why she is doing it, how can I ever trust her again? If her decision making is so flawed that she is willing to expose our children to these kinds of emotional upheavals and possible physical danger, where is her moral compass? Where is her bottom line? What wont she do?

If its meant to be, I'm sure I'll find some way to forgive her. I just don't know how right now.