OK, it's weird time! I notice bookkeeper on chat this evening, I usually don't bother her except to drop her an email or answer one of hers. Tonight I thought I'd do the chat thing, loosen things up a bit. So she accepts my request and we chat for a bit and then she says "would you mind if we stuck to email, I'm not much of a "chatter" and chatting is very time consuming. I hope you understand. Here's my personal email address...." Huh, she's on chat all the friggin' time? Did I just get led to the back of the bus? I said email was fine as I don't chat much either and left her my email address. I think I'll leave contact up to her and move on, I'm not feelin' the love here. You brush me off and then give me your personal email address...I don't get it, not sure I want to. Anyway, next lady is one who contacted me yesterday, absolutely beautiful. Her pictures seemed to be professionally done which sets off the caution alarm. So, I enlarged the name on the photos and Googled this guy. And in his work is this lady, with many more photos of her as well. Apparently they were taken in Toronto this July. He has a Facebook page there she is in the collection with her name. I Google the name and up comes a beauty salon owner in Toronto. I go to her FB page and it's her. Um, do I even think about going there? So the owner of a high class beauty salon is using a free online dating sight to get men...smells very odd to me. I'll pass. So, it's been a very successful evening. I did have dinner with my Mom, that was nice.
The first gal - GAVE YOU HER PERSONAL EMAIL. That means she's comfortable with you. Chatting IS a gigantic time waster, exchanging emails can be done with less interuption to other, necessary activities.
As for the second gal - A) careful with those stalkerish tendencies there buddy. If I were her I'd be freaked out if I found out what you did. And B), why SHOULDN'T the owner of a high class salon use a free online dating site? I'm a doctor and I use one. Do you think only low class people like yourself should use one?
Rein in the suspiciousness and just get to a few coffee dates. This is not a mechanism to get to know them, it's a mechanism to get to that first coffee date - THEN you get to know them Capisch?
OK, you're better at this than me! It's not stalkerish to try and figure out if something that looks too darn good to be true really is! But overthinking...me!!! Yeah, you're right. OK, I'll give Bookkeeper another go. It was so much easier being married lol.
Rein in the suspiciousness and just get to a few coffee dates. This is not a mechanism to get to know them, it's a mechanism to get to that first coffee date - THEN you get to know them Capisch?
and they aren't dates, they're meetings...so last week's lady so bluntly told me! lol
oy vey .. this dating/meeting thing is not for me.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Ah G, that was child's play! I got all that info in less than five minutes...it's kinda scary when you think about it how one little bit of harmless info can lead someone to so much more. But, that's the internet for you. Now, with bookkeeper I am trying to get a coffee date, she didn't respond to my invitation but instead said "you can ask me more questions if you like" so I took that as "not now. pal" OK, I now have her personal email address, after she told me she'd prefer not to chat, but how much more emailing makes sense! We've already talked about our jobs, where we live, our kids, our faith...where to go next? I asked about her divorce, we might as well go there. So, we'll see. I ain't looking for an email pal so I won't do this much longer....and beauty salon owner, I don't think I'm quite up to that but we'll see.
Well, bookkeeper has given me her divorce info and supplied me with her real first and last name. Her screen name is her "pet name"...too bad,I kind of liked it!
Well Bookkeeper sent me a bunch of questions, one of which was "Are you born again" Ah yes. Unfortunately for her my theological concepts are more complex than just yes or no. So here was my reply: "Am I born again? I was born again when I was 12, I had a very emotional experience at a Church of the Nazarene which I was visiting (my family and I went to the United Church at the time). For the past four years I was involved in evangelical churches but decided to move to a more liberal church. I am a person who searches to understand theological concepts and wants to understand thoroughly what I believe. That can be a good thing at times and not so good at others! I respect everyone’s personal journey in regards to spirituality, it’s a complicated topic. The denomination I belong to now, like most liberal churches, does not emphasize the born again experience. So if you're looking for a guy who has his faith all figured out all the time, that's not me. I ask a lot of questions But I am a guy who is serious about faith and recognizes it's value in all our lives. Does that help you or confuse you lol?"
