Separated But Living Under the Same Roof

[CO1978]

She seems to recognize my real change but seems to be reluctant to embrace it as real and lasting and worth taking a risk on.

Exactly, b/c she had already made up her mind to take steps at changing her future. The thought of taking the gamble at giving the M another chance is scary and she thinks (IMO) that if it fails again, she may not come out the second time as emotionally strong as she is now. IOW, she's come this far, and to take a risk at having to go through that pain again is about too much. Remember that this is how I think the WAW sees it.

I think the more she sees you becoming the man she fell in love with, the more she's going to feel frustrated. She may lash out in anger, but don't stop working on improving. Just remember what I told you about how you waited so long and now her plans may have a stumbling block......that being, the new and improved "you". It will be frustration and irration peppered with anger. I believe that some of those feelings are due to her experiencing feelings for you that she thought was over. That could spoil a girl's day! [/quote]
This is very insightful. Thank you Sandi. My W had said the same thing to me a week after she left and this makes a lot of sense. So anger and frustration out of the blue may be a good thing?