Thank you so much for stopping by trusting! I have read every post of yours and I admire your resolve!!! I'm not sure I have your patience- although I never thought I would have the patience to endure 3 months of this either. Any suggestions you can give me would be greatly appreciated!!!
A close friend of ours has been reaching out to him occasionally and not really getting any response. This week, he texted H asking him when he was going to "man up and get back to his family." Of course no response.
Then my kids and I were at a Christmas party on Friday evening with this friend and my son was very rough (much rougher than normal) with their son. So again, he called him and left a message saying that my son is hurting and that he needs to make a decision, either move out, or re-engage with the family. And this time he actually got a reponse!
My H texted him back and said that my son has been rougher since he started playing with the neighbor boy! To which this friend responded to stop blaming people, especially kids, and admit that his son is hurting because his dad is not being a dad. Needless to say my son got a new iPod and got to go hit golf balls that afternoon. Yet today, back to the same old staying in his room ignoring everyone.
As for me- I had a blast at a Christmas party, went to church and dinner with friends, went Christmas shopping, took my daughter to Epcot for the candlight processional, and made gingerbread houses with the kids- plus packed us for our cruise on Saturday!!! I am detaching well I think. I also ordered the book and workbook CoDependent No More. I am anxious to receive them.
Snodderly- I keep thinking of your analogy of the 15 year old teenage boy and sometimes it actually makes me laugh out loud. He will make breakfast for the kids- and leave all the dishes out, and a mess all over the counter. I used to get mad- now I kind of chuckle! Also, since he has been in the spare room, I have only seen him wash the sheets one time! Talk about stench!!! But, that's what teenagers do!!
Me:37 H:44 M:13 T:17 S:8 D:9 H living in spare bedroom since 9/5/11
