Okay. Tomorrow is the day. My XH and I are having our 13th grandchild, the first since we split, and he will be no where around. I don't even know if he knows or cares. Our D23 wouldn't have him there in any case. But I feel conflicted. It's his grandson, too, but I can't make him want to be there, and I can't make D allow it. All in all, he hasn't had anything to do with at least six of our grands in 2 years. If the girls contact him at all, he makes accepting the OW part of the package, and they aren't ready to buy. Why? Does she mean so much more than his own grandbabies? I will never understand.
