Got a text from my W today. "We need to talk about the auto loan paperwork at some point." I got it at 9 o'clock and didn't feel like dealing with it then, so I went back to bed for three more hours. After I woke up, I sent her one back saying "What for?"
I went exercising for an hour, got back, still didn't get a response. It wasn't until after I'd eaten breakfast and started to clean my rabbit's cage that I got a reply: "Look it would just be easier for us to talk on the phone."
I rolled my eyes, expecting a repeat of the convos we've been having for the last six months: us talking business for a while, her trying to pry into my life, me attempting to disengage, and then her launching into a vicious tirade.
Strangely, that's not what happened.
W informed me that the paperwork I sent her is for taking her name off of the title, not the loan, and that she can't take her name off of the title without taking it off of the loan first. Also, I signed the paperwork before I sent it, and it clearly says on the papers that both parties must be present with the notary to sign. I told W that I would hash things out with the bank later on and told her to set the paperwork off to the side for now.
Also, W mentioned that we will just have to be joint on our credit cards until the balance on them are paid off. She intimated that we may have to do the same for the auto loan.
As a final note, W told me that we aren't actually able to finalize the D paperwork until six months after the legal S hearing, which was in September. So we won't be able to D until March. She said, "So if you were planning on getting remarried between that time, you're out of luck." She paused and said, "That was a joke. Not funny?" I didn't laugh at it but at least appreciated her attempts at levity.
She said that if I was planning on getting copies of the S paperwork, she would appreciate getting photocopies of those if at all possible. I told her that I was probably planning on getting copies, so I could do that for her.
She then inquired about the rabbit, and I indulged her because she was being unusually nice. We also discussed the cat, who I could hear meowing in the background.
W asked me about the visit with her parents and the e-mail to her granny; she wanted to know "why" I did it. (The interrogating tone was gone; it sounded more curious than anything.) I simply explained that I hadn't talked to them in a while and didn't think that we would maintain contact after the D, so I just wanted to get in touch to say "thanks for everything." W told me that she didn't think that in-laws "got that" intent out of it (ooookay...), but that she thought they appreciated it and didn't think they expected to keep up contact with me. I told her that I didn't think that, either.
She said, "Well, I guess that's everything--" But I accidentally interrupted her. She asked what I was going to say, and I said, "Well, you caught me in the middle of cleaning the bunny's cage, so I'm going to get back to doing that." W said okay, we said bye to each other, then hung up.
This convo with her seemed different for some reason. Though she never apologized for the last few venom-fests, she accepted that I was getting off of the phone when I was without throwing a tantrum, and she also didn't accuse me of "cutting her and her parents" out of my life again, for which I was glad. This convo generally seemed warmer and more cordial than usual, without the heavy tones of manipulation and power games that I've become used to.
Hm. Does any of this mean anything? I guess we'll see.
