First post, words of wisdom needed

[sunshine76]

Journaling:

I am just wondering if the DBing principles still apply when you are dealing with a partner that is extremely depressed and has PTSD? I am so scared to detach because I feel like she really needs me right now and if I am not there she will find someone else or resent me for it in the future. One of her complaints about me is that there have been times in the past when she needed me and I was not there.

I feel like whatever I do is going to be the wrong thing. When I do nice things for her she seems to appreciate it, but when I go out and do my own thing she seems to respond even more positively (I guess I have my answer).

I have never played Chess, but I imagine it must feel something like this. Always trying to figure out if you are making the right move and anticipating how your opponent is going to respond. I can see how it would be an appealing game, but the real life version suxs.

Well now that I have vented I am going to try to turn my mood around and enjoy a beautiful So. Cal day!