IB my eldest son said something very wise recently - he said the MLCer has an inability to be on their own and an inability to be with those whom they really love.
yes, they miss a lot, but we have to try and not let that interfere with what is good in these events. My greatest regret is the time I spent sighing over my really by now pretty worthless xh! We had a great marriage which he chose to end. I can do nothing about his choices, and even regretting them on his behalf is a waste of time. But Lord it has taken me YEARS to get there!
