but you can have hope, while preparing for the worst. When your h sees what he is missing b/c of his choice
it WILL begin to weigh on him as long as what he sees in you/kids is stuff he'd miss. Make sense?
I REALLY think you are getting it, so now you have to trust that
1) good memories will resurface. There WERE Some, right? I mean you have 3 kids...and you did more than most couples and expected A LOT from each other. But the good times will resurface -- when he sees/hears of good ones with you and the kids being made now.
AND
2) that in time, he'll believe in your changes and wonder about a reconciliation....AND
3) OW will reveal that she is human....and flawed. BTW, how is HER h taking all this? And her kids?
They are both giving up a lot to be together. The "tragic romance" of that only lasts so long before it wears. This isn't Romeo and Juliet or a television show with "Us against Them" and having the "us" winning out against all odds.
Hang in there...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
