Has anyone ever recovered from a sitch this bad?

[gonnawinherback]

In the one constructive conversations I've had with W since the S, she acknowledged that we both contributed to the failure of the M (her words). And that's so true. The problem is that when the M is falling apart, we all have a tendency to focus on what our partner could/should do to fix things. Which is counterproductive, because we have no control over our spouse's behavior, only our own. DB is about flipping that dynamic around and taking care of our own business. My 2 cents