Had a pretty decent day yesterday. I was just very tired. The ambivalent feeling toward my situation continues...
We had our annual Holiday party at work yesterday. It was at a conference center away from the office. The D'd woman in my group rode with me there and back. Some of you who may have been following my sitch may remember me mentioning a woman at work I'm attracted to. It's her. She's been a good friend to me through this, and occasionally we'll talk. I find her a little more attractive when she asks about my situation. She's also a totally different person than my W. Her situation is very much like the ones we see on this MB. I think it just serves to remind me there are (along with the women out here on this MB, of course! ) good women out there. I'm not looking to start a new relationship AT ALL. I'm still M'd to my W. Maybe it's God's way of telling me to get out of the way and let Him work.
I had my S last night. We went out to eat for some wings early and came home and hung out for a bit playing Wii. We did get on a conversation about my W. He said she made a mistake moving out because she was unhappy. I asked him if she was happier now. He said no - she unhappier now than what she was. Now folks - she's not showing me this, but I don't expect her to either.
My son and I met up with some friends this morning in downtown Cincy at Fountain Square (Yes, this by the fountain you always saw on WKRP in Cincinnati) to do some ice skating. This was my first time ice skating in at least 35 years! I pulled it off!! I was actually somewhat competent. No broken bones or ER trips. I was pumped up about it, too!! I had a blast! We all went out to eat afterward. It was a fantastic first half of the day.
I came home and did a quick 8.6 mile bike ride. Like the ice skating wasn't enough!
BTW - no contact with my W since Thursday, unless you count the accidental purse dial voicemail she left me when I got home. Nothing significant from the first 15 seconds of that voicemail. I'm kind of in a mood where I don't care right now, either.
She's been a good friend to me through this, and occasionally we'll talk. I find her a little more attractive when she asks about my situation. She's also a totally different person than my W. Her situation is very much like the ones we see on this MB. I think it just serves to remind me there are (along with the women out here on this MB, of course! smile ) good women out there.
I've found that one of the easiest ways to make strong friendships during this time is talking to people of either sex who have been through a similar process. It's weirdly like joining a club -- only members really know what it's like, and they're able to bond with each other over that experience.
Originally Posted By: jbnati
He said she made a mistake moving out because she was unhappy. I asked him if she was happier now. He said no - she unhappier now than what she was. Now folks - she's not showing me this, but I don't expect her to either.
Very interesting. It's predictable that your S will see her at her most vulnerable and honest -- she only has to put up a front for you. Maybe the gears are starting to click in her head?
As always, GAL-ing like a pro, JB! Glad you enjoyed your day!
Awesome! Would it be giving too much information if I asked where you're from. I am not originally from Cincy, but not too far away - about 1 hour or so North of here - Dayton area.
Almost as far south in OH as you can get, where the Scioto flows into the Ohio.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
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) good women out there. I'm not looking to start a new relationship AT ALL. I'm still M'd to my W. Maybe it's God's way of telling me to get out of the way and let Him work.
Like the ice skating wasn't enough!
Thanks for indulging my curiousity.