Tonight my W and I are supposed to go to a Christmas party. She bought a new dress for it and I was looking forward to it. Sadly, my W has been sick for the past few days and still has to work this weekend. With all that, she told me she can't go - the illness, still having to work, etc.
When I got home tonight to get ready for the party she was there already and she was crying, by herself. I asked her what was the matter and she wouldn't talk about it. I did not push it. I just asked her what was wrong. She did tell me about her being sick and not able to go. I calmly accepted all that was going on, did not push her, asked her if she needed anything and left it at that. All in all a pretty good DB response I think.
One thing I had done during the day was left a white rose in a small vase for her. Don't know if she has seen it. We have been living in separate rooms since the bomb drop and I left it in the room she is staying in. I'm not sure if this is an anti DB move or not in terms of whether that is pursuing but I just did it for her without any expectation of a return. These little things make her happy but I'm not sure if it adds pressure. She does thank me for things like that and as far as I can tell she likes gifts like that (I mean both before and since the bomb dropped).
I am going to the party tonight and will have a good time. I figure I have been suppostive of her while sick, not falling into any anti DB actions, and am GAL with things like this. So, I feel like today has been a great day for me DB'ing and taking the time for introspection and self-improvement. ______________________________________________________________ Me - 53, her - 45, married - 24 yrs 3 sons - 24,21,13 bombed - March 2011 living same hone separate rooms
