Anyone heard from Denver or nine??

[25yearsmlc]

Val

sometimes I give much better advice than I practice


It's one thing to "get it" and quite another to DO IT...let alone consistently.

But what helped me was that I knew limbo would not last forever b/c I had a timeline in mind from the get go, once h had left. So I knew that worst case, it'd be two years of the weirdness and then I would end it, (unless I changed my mind, which I reserve the right to do).

I figured if we were able to pay our bills (notwithstanding the loss of our savings) sufficiently,

for 2 years, I could get my older d through high school without a move, which was HER biggest concern. That would also give my younger d 2 years of adjusting time, and they were always my priority.

Demonstrating the line between self respect and false pride for my d's, was not easy but it was a goal, as a mother. That goal gave me clarity, and the DB coaching and great mc I had, helped me know where that line was, more or less. It's a shifting line sometimes.


but at the end of that two year period

h had started to awaken. And act on his own, back towards us.

Funny, I was SO CLOSE to being done for good, that it took some real effort on his end to overcome my own trajectory away.

I'll suggest they look to the old thread but the reality is that how I see things NOW is probably very different than I did then.

thanks for the suggestion though. If I can figure it out, I may do that.

((( )))

SORRY FOR THE HIJACK!