I have actually been drinking a lot less since H's A...but I guess I made up for it. :-) I think given my H's trip...I was on a bit of a mission that night.
I'm definitely thinking the lure is the self-esteem boost. Also, I don't think my idea of ramping up the sexiness with H was a bad one...hard to compete with the OW but I also don't think it necessarily hurts (especially in my case where H stil seems to generally like me)
As one of my friends said, "your life is certainly not boring".
M 44, H 46 D11, D9, D5 Married 12 years PA confirmed 9/2011 I filed 3/2012 H moved out 7/2012