Putting it back together, but SSM issues linger

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Need advice:

My W went on a business trip Thursday night and came home last night. If you've followed my sitch, you know my W had 2 serious EA's with coworkers in the past. When she returned, I asked her about the trip. She flew to another city and connected with her company's salesman for that territory who she works with mainly remotely. Friday they had a meeting together with a client and then she flew home.

Here's what happened:

Before she left she told me she would call me to check-in Thursday night when she got to the hotel. She volunteered this, I didn't request it. She asked how late she could call. I told her up until 11:00 would be fine.

At 9:45 she texted me and said she was running out to get some food and would call when she got back to the hotel. At 11:10 I sent her a text telling her I was really tired and we could connect tomorrow.

When she got back from the trip last night, she told me that Thursday night she and the salesman had gone out to dinner together. The concierge gave them a restaurant recommendation that he said would be good and reasonably fast. She said as it turns out, it was a very fancy Italian dinner. She said that the salesman is a bit younger than she is, and is "old school" with his manners. He would take care of all the travel arrangements, taxicabs, etc, hold the door, etc. He also asked her what she was going to order and ordered for her. She said that he is a "metrosexual", very fastidious, a "foodie", etc.

She said that's why they got back to the hotel after 11:00. The next day they went to the business meeting. The customer was there shaking hands with everyone at the start of the meeting, but gave my wife a big hug.

A few things: my wife is fiercely independent and very much an advocate of women's equality. She doesn't let me carry her luggage for her, etc., so I was very surprised she wouldn't have an issue with the salesman ordering her dinner for her. I asked her if she thought that was appropriate, and she said he's just "old school", and that she liked it.

What am I to take from this? Was this story designed to make me jealous, to make me feel inadequate, or was it innocent and I'm being crazy?

I acknowledge that when we haven't had sex for a while I get "dark" and I'm there now. Last night made that worse. Should I say anything to her about how this made me feel, or blow it off? I definitely don't want to be needy.

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