A Bklyn tale

[keep_going]

BM -

I am sorry you are struggling with your thoughts and the idea of not meeting a deadline. I am in general an impatient person and being in limbo and debating if I should keep hoping and simply giving up was hard.

I have been reading a lot of diff. sitchs here - specially the ones that have succeeded (as a source of inspiration and knowledge). One of the things I have noticed is just how long things can take. Most of the cases I have read, it takes YEARS... some even went thru divorces before reconciling. So I learned that as long as I was patient, anything is possible.

To answer the question of how long to wait, I would agree with 2thepoint. Is it worth for you to hang on? Only you can decide that, and your answer will determine how long you hang on. For me, my H and my family (my kids are also so young like yours) are totally worth me being patient and standing for my M. That is how I feel NOW. Will I feel different as time goes on and as I DB more and work on myself more?
It's hard, but some days I am starting to feel like things will be ok, no matter what. So maybe some day I won't even feel like waiting any more... I don't know that and I see no point on worrying about that now. All I can answer now is that TODAY, it's worth waiting for and therefore, I am hopeful today. Tomorrow, who knows...I guess I will find out tomorrow.
Hang in there and I also agree with everyone - concentrate on your GAL. The advantage you and I have is that we have little ones that need a lot of our time and attention and that should help keep us busy. But think about things to do that you like. And take advantage of friends and family offers to help babysit, if you have relatives nearby.
I don't have many where I live, so any chance I have, I take it!
Don't dispair! You deserve a better life and a great Xmas holiday, so make it happen.
(((hugs)))