It's been 6 months since my wife left . We were Married for 16 years and have 3 young kids. Well at this point I have tried just about everything from being super nice to angry. but for the most part I have left her alone I only call her about the kids once or twice a week and she does the same. For the last 3 months I have been super nice to her and have been working on myself trying to get a life. I never talk about our relationship and nether does she but She just won't let up on the divorce. There doesn't seem to be another guy, I think I would know by now. I have read the DB book and tried all the technics .whatever I do just seems to make her mad. I have been going out a lot recently and that really seems to make her mad. At this point I just don't know what to try next. When I see her I am always nice, I ask her how she is and sometimes I tell her she looks good but she never says much.I did recently ask her if I could come over and talk to her but she refused. We are now coming up on the final settlement part of the divorce, I know this will cause more strain. The whole thing has been very strange from the beginning. My wife is a very family oriented person and always said she would never get a divorce and my kids have suffered greatly. It just doesn't make sense. What can I say to her? How about Christmas, do I get her a gift ? One thing she did say about 3 months ago was that the divorce preceding have caused unrepairable damage, what can I say to that. Yes there has been damage done but I would do anything to have my family back.
