Hi Val, I have been reading your posts and I have to say that you truly are an inspiration.

I am very new to this whole seperation/divorce thing so I can't really offer you much help with marriage advice, but I learned a great deal about grief after my mom died and I think it applies to divorce as well. I think some of the best advice I received from my therapist is to give yourself permission to have a bad day or a bad moment... From reading your posts it sounds like you have made great strides given the crappy hand that you have been dealt, so basically I guess my very unprofessional advice to you would be to let yourself feel however you are feeling and don't kick yourself in the a$$ for it.

Hang in there tomorrow is a new day!


M:(f) 35
W: 45
3 dogs and 2 cats
T: 9 years
9/30/11 I love you, but I'm not in love with you
OW confirmed 12/23/11