First post, words of wisdom needed

[sunshine76]

Thank you both for responding!

2thepoint, you are right I need to start detaching because I am slipping back into my puppy dog ways of trying to find excuses to talk to her, going out of my way to do sweet things for her... Like you said, I will end up resenting her because I am doing %110 percent of the giving.

As far as 180's go I am now always upbeat around her (I used to be extremely moody and she said she always felt like she was walking on egg shells). I am trying to get a life of my own because I definetely used to smoother her. Everything used to have to be done my way or else it wasn't the right way. I now see that, that was controlling and it really hurt her feelings so now I have just started trying to give her little compliments on how she does things...

I admittedly need to get some of my backbone back though because I feel like I have turned into a really weak person by trying to cater to her every whim and I know for a fact that she does not find this attractive in people.

Thanks for the support. I have been reading through some of your post and I hope everything is going well for you