Hi alone! I looked for your thread and it does look like we are ging through the same thing. It is so hard to let go of OW, right? But it's true, it will just sabotage the relationship.
Funny, my H is a hunter too, just like your H.
There's a lot of similarities in our situations, just feel free to look into my thread for advice that may apply to you too! I tend to be very verbose and detailed about what I am going through....
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go