W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore.

[CO1978]

Its always easy to point the finger, I did, then I realized "Crap, I am part of the reason she is acting like this!" If you really value your marriage, and think its worth saving listen to these people. If you don't care and think none of this is your fault and divorce is the only option than there is no reason for you to reach out on this board. No one said you W doesnt have problems, but the only thing you can do right now is fix you. DBing is about saving ourselves first only then can we save our marriage. You may not like the tone of Mr. Bond, he may come off harsh, but he knows what he is talking about.