First post, words of wisdom needed

[2thepoint]

Hey Sunshine! Really glad to hear that you landed a job and have some other activities planned outside of your sitch! Having something to do that will keep your mind occupied is going to be so key for you during this difficult time.

It sounds like your partner is going through some tough times and I am a little conflicted about how to guide you in your interactions with her. DB techniques suggest you get a life which you are doing and detach which you aren't doing so much. What you may find as you go along is that as you continue to be there for her, she will continue to not be there for you and you will grow to resent her as a result.

I think you should try to detach some, let her deal with her issues as much as possible and it may actually be easy for you to do this once you start working and engage in your other activities.

Have you considered what your 180's should be? If so, what have you done in this regard.

Yes, this is going to be a long, hard slog and you should not expect any overnight results. There will be moments of clarity only to be quickly overcome by the fog of whatever your partner is going through. Be ready. Be strong. We're here to help when you need us.