W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore.

[MrBond]

"I do have some certain expectations and one being that my partner wants the best for me and is willing to help me obtain that as I hold my own expectation for my partner that I want whats best for them."

Your post was just a rehash of your previous ones. What you don't seem to understand is that during this period it will be all about her. Mental illness or not, that's how all WASs are. You continue to focus on your needs and why your W has changed because you have.

In the end you haven't changed because of expectations. And you're getting frustrated and hurt. Again, we've all been there.

WASs lie, maybe cheat, have depression, etc. Your W isn't the only one. After focusing so much on what your W has done wrong, how about focusing on something that she's done right? If you continue to focus on the negative, it will have a tendency to overtake anything good she's doing in your eyes. That's why her texting you may have been a way of reaching out to you, but it wasn't enough for you so you acted in frustration.

All of this stuff is learned. It doesn't come naturally. It's what changes your M into a mature one. If you're not willing to see to your W's needs without expecting anything back, then you might as well file today. Look at the others that have R. Some have taken years of what your W's been doing. Maybe your W feels she's missed out on something in life. You did marry young after all. We don't know. She's trying to sort things out. Even going out with the OM is like a band-aid to what she's feeling inside. Have you tried different ways in getting to that feeling in her? But again, that takes compassion and understanding without expectation.

If you aren't willing to do that (even in the short run) then file.