We're all fairly honest and straight up on this board with each other so I'm going to just say that your quote there is petty and mean. She left her toys behind so you're going to keep them? Really? What will you do with her stuff? Do you really want it around anyway?
Not her toys. It was our son's old clothes. Many of them have sentimental value to me. I was in the middle of sorting the others out to give out to the needy. The same thing goes for her stuff. It's a sad side note that she has not asked for any of her bibles (with her being the ex-missions student and all).
Originally Posted By: workinghardguy
And if that sounds weak... well, I believe it's the strongest thing in the world to forgive the person who is hurting you. It takes a strength of character and an abundance of love to go there. But I also realize I don't have a choice. I can be angry all day at her, but it doesn't affect her one bit - it affects me and the kids.
True, forgiving the person who is hurting me is very important for one's self, to say the least. However, when that someone is blindly hurting someone else I love the most (our son), that's a whole different story. My wife's decisions to this very day are making compromises with our son's life and stability.
Yes, I need to let my feelings go and be productive. Believe me, I do -- it's still a 180 I practice diligently. Sometimes I just can't help but react when our son flatly (and obviously disappointedly) says that if he asked mommy to come with us to, say, the kids museum to have fun, she will say no.
