"4) I was angry that W wouldn't engage me in what I thought were constructive conversations about issues we faced as a couple. When angry I would sometimes raise my voice, or criticize her unwillingness to engage. I frequently insinuated that there was something wrong with her approach to life and if she would only do things my way our problems would go away, or at least improve. I was also angry about the lack of physical and emotional intimacy in our marriage and blamed her for those deficiencies. W's response was to shut down. She would often hear my complaints in silence and simply never respond. It was weird."
This ^^^^is similar to my convos with W. My W would shut down and just stare if I brought up an issue. The more she retreated the angrier I got. She said that I criticized her about everything. Me telling her that she was 2miles over in her oil in her car to her was a criticizim. When that is not what I intended.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
