You're mind reading, a waste of time. Why not let her look inward, grow and struggle to change during this time JUST LIKE YOU ARE. What comes out of that may be a better version of your old W. Just may not be with you. But she is trying to improve herself too and that's not a bad thing. You're doing three Cs too - you've made a choice to try to improve yourself and hopefully save your marriage, you're taking a chance that it may not go your way, and as a result you're changing who you are, for the better. Can you hide her FB stuff so you don't see it and drive yourself crazy?
Adivna - I hadn't realized that the three C's applt to me too. That's so insightful and thank you so much!!! Yes, I am really getting better and letting go and looking inward. The realization of what I am doing to myself by stalking her FB is a big step for me. In addition, I would check my W's phone records to track her calls to the OM. It's so easy to fall into that and I have stopped completely. I am working on myself, praying for her to resolve her demons and trusting in the divine that what is necessary will happen. Merry Christmas!
