What do I do next? Part 2

[luvhurts49]

Me and my W have always spoiled our kids at x-mas time, but I'm not trying to outdo my W, I simply don't have the money to do so and I wouldn't try to anyway because Mach1 is right, I don't want to be remembered as the "Disney dad", but as the dad that wants and enjoys spending time with my kids.

You have a great idea there Mach1 about writing things down in a calendar, in fact, I'm gonna go buy a new calendar today and start doing that. I've kept a pretty good list of important dates (including dates that I have the kids) in Google Docs, so I'll just write those in with a description of what I did with the kids on those dates. That way I'll at least have some kind of documentation to show my L and possibly use it in court.

@Accuray, my L said that my W can't even bring up the use of AD or a counselor in court unless we (L and I) bring it up first. But my L said that the use of AD's during a D is pretty common anyways. As far as A or OM is concerned, I live in Illinois, so legally, it doesn't make a lick of difference. The only way I could have ever used it against her is as a reason to start a D, but since I didn't start nor wanted a D, it can't be used.

My W and I had a pretty long texting session the other day and while I won't get into all of it during this post, there is one comment she made that really ticked me off. She said "my kids are the last dream that I have left and I won't let you take them away from me." Really!!! Last time I checked, they are "our" kids and I don't want to take them away from her, but she sure as hell wants to take them away from. Why is it okay for her to try and take our kids away from me when I love and care for them just as much as her?