"Possession" to be fought over is so accurate. OW uses daughter to manipulate and control, and my H is acting like she's a possession.
Sadly, he sees NO other way to have healthy access to his daughter most of the time. He has moments of clarity where he knows what it will take to have access to his daughter and not let both he and OW use her as a wishbone.
He told me all about their drag em out, last night. OW is balking at telling her H, about my H. So...once that does happen, that OW tells her H: My question was: Ok, to want end? (It's a technique that I learned in T in 2008). His answer: I'll have more access to my daughter.
Still making deals with god, he is. He's off now to see OW and go shopping with her and daughter. Round and round and round it goes.
I know he's still not ready. There are many more drag em outs that will need to be had and more deals with god that didn't go his way, and many more wackjob episodes by OW, before he grows his brain back.
Me, the more I watch this, experience it, the more I'm just ready for the door.
I did use one of my own passive aggressive comments last night and said: seriously you should just move her in "here" with you. Just let me get the hell out of here first. He turned to me, with a look on his face, that I rarely see and said: She'll never live in this f'g house. I will raise my daughter on my own if you aren't going to raise her with me.
Ok. Round and round and round. Of course, once his deal with god about telling OW's H doesn't pan out like he wants, and she's just as psycho as ever... then I'm sure MY being in this house will be her most convenient excuse.
That inch in the door is getting smaller and smaller.
Abbey
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.
