Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Wii - I don't think she is cheating. She would not have put her photos up in the first place. But it is kind of strange to put them up then take them down - most people do it the other way around.
Still - give her a chance. There are often reasons people do things that make perfect sense to them and really won't make any difference to you.
Honestly, I think she's just shy. Probably like most of us there's part of her that is saying "I dunno about this". We emailed back and forth last night and she was pretty open about anything I asked. I left her with a suggested day for us to meet and left time and place to her. She hasn't responded yet so we'll see.
...and if she was cheating she wouldn't have used her real name in her screen name...unless she lied to me lol. Her first name is a word from the book of Psalms.
Hm, bookkeeper lady sent me an email. She'd asked me a short question yesterday, which I answered, and writes "OIC, you can ask me questions now if you want" Um, isn't that why I suggested we meet? Obviously, she's not ready to do that. I'm much better in person than shooting questions back and forth with a faceless lady. On the other hand, I also need to respect her caution and comfort level. So I asked her a couple about her job, where she lives and whether the "falls" she likes are Niagara Falls. My guess is she wants to gauge whether I'm really interested or will just drift off 'coz she's not ready to meet right away. I dunno. I'll play for a bit and see what happens.
While exchanging emails with my new email pal, I discovered that she lives in the neighbourhood I grew up in and her daughter goes to my old high school. Hey, maybe one day bookkeeper and I can meet at the coffee shop I used to hang out in as a teenager. Now, at the end of the month she is moving down the road to the intersection where my sister now lives. Small world!
Bookkeeper asked me about my religious denomination "just curious" she said. I told her that "I belong to a denomination called Unity which is very small in Canada but I find it to be in line with my own spiritual beliefs, it is far less restrictive than mainline churches" This is her response "Oh thank you for the information about your church and your beliefs. I am Protestant-Baptist and my beliefs are very important in finding my man. This is my number 1 requirement." OMG, I didn't mention that Unity is a new thought church and her church would probably consider us wacko's. She just thinks I'm a nice church going guy and that's great! We are a bible based church but we interpret the bible in a metaphysical manner rather than a literal one. We have other very different ideas about miracles, Jesus, sin etc. We call our beliefs "positive Christianity" Let's just say we're more liberal than the liberal churches. But then, if I went to a United Church I wouldn't even be thinking about this issue and that church is pretty liberal. So I don't know where to go with this one! I remember wanting to ditch MM when I found out she was a Muslim but then I decided not to judge someone on my own probably erroneous ideas about what she believed. It turned out we had many of the same beliefs despite the difference in our faiths and it made no difference at all. The funny thing is that up until six months ago I had been an evangelical Christian for over four years, so I know the ropes and have no issues with someone having those beliefs and I also know that people usually have their own personal interpretation of what Christianity means, which "rules" are important to follow and denomination is often a meaningless term...it's which ever church is closest to me. But, I also don't want to mess with her head either. On the other hand, I told her that my church was far less restrictive than mainline churches...that's pretty clear. I don't know, I guess I'd have to get to know her in order to figure out whether the faith thing is really that critical...and I'd have to know what she actually believes, which I don't! Maybe I'm over- reacting, but I don't screw people around...that's my number 1 requirement of myself!
OK, here's what I just wrote her. "My church is very liberal but I was an Evangelical Christian for a long time previously. I believe faith is a very important part of who we are and each person develops it in a personal way. How did you become a Baptist? Were you once a Catholic or were you raised Baptist. I was raised in the United Church" If she reacts to "very liberal" then I'll have a good indication of where this is going. But honestly, I'll bet just hearing that I go to church each week is good enough. Are we having fun yet? Lol.
