W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore.

[Snowman]

Ok, I find it pretty preposterous that you think that you have the slightest clue as to what my marriage has been like. I know that I have to deal with my W for the rest of my life and trust me I have done everything I can to work with her but she has not done anything. She continues to talk and call numerous guys all day everyday. That may be ok for some people to see and live with but when your wife does it for months on end that is not ok with me nor could I ever trust her again.

Mr. Bond
1. I have been deal with all the stuff mentioned my entire marriage not just since the bomb was dropped so don't presume you know.
2. She is not trying to get help. She has pushed her entire family away and those people that know her and care about her. She is dating guys during separation, goes to a psychiatrist without anyone else to explain her issues against the advice of many, and continues to party with no care in the world. I would like you to explain how this is working on it because she tries to bait me with a text. It is the correct attitude about her being mentally unstable because she is and numerous people have observed it, her psychologists referred her to a psychiatrist, and he own uncle who is a 20 year psychologist thinks the same. Its not like I just came up with that opinion yesterday, you might want to read all the posts.
3. I didn't shut her down, I told her to gather her thoughts and lets talk. You seem to have taken the side of my WAW for some reason. If we are going to use maybe, then maybe she is setting me up to deliver D papers or some other vicious thing. I'm done being a doormat for this.
5. This has not been a normal marriage by any means and again your presume you know what it has been like. I know there is no normal marriage but one that has been like this is not acceptable to me. If living on eggshells everyday hoping she is not going to get explode for some random thing is normal then count me out. Her own family thinks she has acted weird. I'm not just making this stuff up for the fun of it.

I'm very cognizant of the fact I have to deal with her for the rest of my life and I even discussed that with her many months ago. I'm not going to ignore my hurt feelings because they are hurt for a reason. I have been trying to do whats best for my S this whole time but she could care less. She continues down this path and I'm not joining her.

I did respond to her saying what I really want, I wanted to know what she wanted to talk about. I find out hard to believe that a person can say that they want to talk about something and then not know what they want to talk about. I left the window open in the text messaging but she didn't want to say. Its not like I'm the one that has destroyed the trust by running out on our family and marriage or lying constantly about things. I feel like you guys are marriage counselors that are attacking me and my wife has no fault in this. Apparently I'm the bad guy in all of this.

I will talk to her but unless there is sincere want to work on things and great effort to ask for forgiveness for the cheating and many other things then I will stand with my decision.