Understand I'm not advocating being vindictive, and I think my post might come off that way. I'm advocating being more protective of your own stress level here, of protecting what you can personally take. Maybe it's still too "raw" for you to negotioate big family events with his family, and until it hurts you less/causes you less anxiety, find ways around these big events and substitute your appearance at them in ways that are not so detrimental to you psychologically.
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
