My H told me he was broken after ILYBNILWY. Each time I begged him to come back he said "Dont you get it, I'm broken!!" I wish I said back then "what your Humpty dumpty now". My D3 would have cracked up.
Anyway I too am confused as to WTF it means. I thought MrB explaination worked.
I think this board really emphasizes going dark but I dont think the DB coaches always emphasize that. For me the DB coaches emphasize doing what works to rebuild your friendship with H first. Definitely dont pursue but if you have an opportunitity to communicate with H use it as an opportunitity to show the new fabulous YOU.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13