"Good News Today: I bummed into a mutual causal friend who said that he had run into my H at the same spot we bummed into each other. This friend didnt know about our sitch so I took that as a positive that my H hadnt been telling people we were spilt up."

I do think that this is a positive. The fewer people that know about your sitch, the easier it will be to retract if/when it comes to that point.

I also think and it has been said many times here, TINE and more TIME is needed to work through this. The question is, after all the pain and heartache, can you hold on?

During my DC session yesterday where the topic was Reconciliation, they discussed the concept of the line of reconciliation. One of the MC's in the video said that he will work very hard with the injured spouse (that would be you Bklyn) to have them commit to holding at the line of Reconciliation for 6 months. This means not moving on or pursuing another relationship. Then if six months go by and there is no movement from the other party, he tries to convince them to hold on for another 6 months.

The point being, people need time. Your H needs time. As unfair as it is, he needs time. So, I ask again, can you hang on? Is it worth it to you to hang on?

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Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11

It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.

Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife