Has anyone ever recovered from a sitch this bad?

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Heading into court Tuesday to get custody of the kids. W wants to move them out of family home and in with OM, been dating since October 31 and not someone the kids or I ever knew. Actually, W already moved them in with OM, without proper legal notice. Kids (6 and 2) are noticeably unsettled by the upheaval.

DBing and court are a tough mixture.

Been thinking about the feedback I've received - more than one suggested I think about what I did to get positive response from W. I have an idea, but it is so odd that I fear telling it. It's only happened twice, so I ran an experiment and did it again - will reveal it if it works.

Question - do you tell your S that you aren't interested in reconciliation? Even if you are? I try to be nice, mostly right now to help us co-parent our kids, then she beats me up in court docs that I want to reconcile and can't accept reality.

Question 2 - can agreeing to a divorce be considered a 180? Not sure what other 180's I can do. And we can always reconcile later.