So I am giving some thought to the custody argument W and I are having after reading some posts, more of the book and just THINKING.
W and I both have custody plans we would like to implement. She doesn't like mine and I don't like hers.
Situational facts:
1.) One of W's FREQUENTLY articulated sources of unhappiness was her perception that everything had to be my way (W said she "wasn't surprised that I didn't take her proposal/opinion seriously - it is reflective of the dynamic of our former marriage" - hurtful, and I think she said "former" just to turn the knife a bit
2.) Any agreement we arrive at now would not be legally binding as it is just between us and not dictated by the court
3.) It is clear that this topic is one that stirs up a lot of anger and resenment in my W ("avoid things that don't work")
4.) This has to be resolved soon so that we may get on with our lives and whatever this process will bring
Based on the above, I am considering accepting her proposal with two modest modifications: 1.) when I have him on the weekends I pick him up Friday night instead of her dropping him off Saturday morning at 9:00 AM - 2.) When she has him on the weekends she returns him to me at 3:00 or 4:00 instead of 7:00 so I can make him dinner and eat with him.
In turn, she would pick up an extra day with him over me (Wednesday) and we would basically be agreeing to a plan SHE proposed.
I would like this to be a 180 based off of her complaint about me "always having to get my way". I think those two simple modifcations to the plan she proposed would work. Thoughts? Would this get a decent reaction if presented as "We can use your proposal if I can suggest two minor fixes..."? I'm just throwing things against the wall right now and trying to DB my way out of a negative situation and TRY to make it into a postive where she walks away feeling good and I walk away feeling good as well.
